Be Distinctive. Be exuberant. Be authentic. Have Moxie!
We never forget memorable people. They say something and we think about it for days. We think about them often, we remember what they say, how they say it and what they do. How is it that some people are more memorable than others? What is it that makes them unforgettable?
What does it mean to be memorable? Do you know, or have you met memorable people even briefly? Are you one? Do you want to be more memorable, but don't know how?
Usually, memorable people seem to have a way of lighting up the room; of gathering energy; of having a strong, powerful, authentic self. We like to be around them. They have some sort of magical, mysterious, magnetic quality about them.
When you are memorable, it's easy to motivate others, captivate audiences, win clients, succeed in job interviews, and influence people. You can develop the confidence and charisma that can help you become memorable to everyone around you. Did I say charisma? Did I say develop it? Yes, I believe you can. I believe it starts with moxie.
I teach a workshop called "The Art of Being Memorable". It's one of my favorite workshops because it's so fun! I show people that anybody can give a speech, they just get up there and talk! But a good speech is an INTERESTING speech. Great speakers know that being memorable is what is important.
So how do you be memorable? I think one of the key ingredients is EXUBERANCE!
Dr. Kay Redfield Jamison, in her book, Exuberance: The Passion for Life, says that exuberance is one of secrets of being memorable. "Exuberant people," she says, "take in the world and act upon it differently than those who are less lively and less energetically engaged. They hold their ideas with passion and delight, and they act upon them with dispatch."
"Exuberance is also," she said, "contagious. As it spreads pell-mell throughout a group, exuberance excites, it delights, and it dispels tension."
This is why I believe that exuberance is one of the ingredients for being memorable. Here are some OTHER ways of being memorable too:
10 Ways to Be Memorable
(Abraham Lincoln said, "Whatever you are, be a good one!")
2. Be a good listener. Be interested in people. Ask questions ALWAYS.
(We adore people who are interested in us!)
3. Understand how people perceive you and ask yourself "is this how I want to be perceived?"
(If not, do some work on the nonverbal communication messages you are sending out.)
4. Raise your confidence and self-esteem levels yourself -- you are responsible for your own self esteem!
(Self-esteem does not arrive by FedEx. You can learn techniques to raise your confidence.)
5. Develop moxie, enthusiasm, exuberance.
(Moxie is a word for courage, gutsy, brave.)
6. Be mysterious.
(Say just enough, but not too much! We fear people who self disclose too much!)
7. Nurture and praise your creativity.
(Creativity needs food and water to grow. It must be cultivated!)
8. Improve you Memory and thought.
(There are many techniques to improve memory. Learn one! They can be fun, and impressive.)
9. Use the magic power of words.
(You can say something the boring way, or you use metaphors, rhythm, and sparkling words to express yourself.)
10. Have strong positive non-verbal communication.
(Posture, a pleasant voice and a smile are the most powerful communication tools!)
1. Name five people who are memorable to you. They can be someone you know well, someone you’ve had a brief conversation with, or a famous person you can never forget. Then, try to pinpoint what is about them that made them memorable. The way they talked? The way they listened? Was it their manners? Their intellect? Was it the profound things they said? Was it something they said, something they did? There is more than one way to be memorable. Once you identify the way, you can begin to work on being more memorable yourself.
2. The GLOATING Exercise. Yes, gloat! Now! The exercise is to think about all the things you love about yourself. To do this, you have to put all inhibitions aside. Draw a circle; fill in the circle with LOTS of things you love about yourself. What is it about that makes you memorable?
A Word About Enthusiasm John Maxwell wrote that "When the members of a team are enthusiastic, the whole team becomes highly energized. And that energy produces power." Enthusiasm is that ‘certain something’ that makes the distinction between mediocre and excellent. An enthusiastic working environment brings excitement and energy that help motivate everyone involved in the task or project. According to Alina Yekelchik, Research Coordinator, at Yale University, team members who possess an enthusiastic attitude share several common characteristics.
1. They Take Responsibility for Their Own Enthusiasm
– Attitude is a choice, including enthusiasm. They choose to exude a positive and upbeat attitude on their own and not wait for outside validation or positive influences. They rely on themselves and take responsibility for their choices.
2. They Act Their Way into Feeling
– They take the initiative in developing an enthusiastic outlook and not rely on enthusiasm to propel them to action.
3. They Believe in What They Do
– They concentrate on the positive aspects of work and avoid dwelling on the negative.
4. They Spend Time with Other Enthusiastic People
– A positive energy will travel from person to person and if you surround yourself with enthusiastic people,
the outcome will be spectacular.
To improve your Enthusiasm:
• Show a sense of urgency
– setting a deadline for a project will help you reenergize and prioritize, thus increasing your level of energy.
• Be willing to do more
– go above and beyond the call of duty to show the team your invaluable input, your enthusiasm for your work will transfer onto your teammates.
• Strive for excellence
- do not settle for mediocrity, strive to do and be the best you can.
My "Art of Being Memorable" Workshop and Keynote...
is a fun and lively program that helps you polish your authentic self, find the sparkle that's inside you, and ignite it. It includes ways to improve your authenticity, listening skills, and confidence. (Also available in private executive coaching.)
For more tips on being a great public speaker, contact Lisa Jeffery for private executive coaching, workshops or keynotes.
A Can of Moxiemox·ie: (mok-see)
– noun Slang.
1. vigor; verve; pep.
2. courage, nerve.
3. skill; know-how.
4. The ability to face difficulty with spirit and courage.
5. Energy, enthusiasm
Moxie is soft drink that is still found in parts of New England, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.
The name entered the American language, when a person was said to be "full of Moxie," meaning that the person was skillful, or spirited.
Moxie became unique in that it was the name of a commercially produced soft drink, also included in dictionaries. The popularity of Moxie produced popular advertising jingles such as "Just Make It Moxie for Mine" and president Calvin Coolidge was known to have favored the drink. Falling out of favor due to competition from Coca Cola, demand for the soft drink has waned in recent years, although demand for it still exists in the New England area. It is, since May 10, 2005, the official state soft drink of Maine.
The word has entered into the English language as a noun meaning spirit, energy courage. Be different! Have lots of moxie!
This Month's Recommended Book
The New Secrets of Charisma :
How to Discover and Unleash your Hidden Powers
by Doe Lang, Ph.D.
Synopsis
Charisma is that special something that separates leaders from followers and winners from also-rans. In this new, updated edition of her bestselling classic, Doe Lang shows that at any age, in any job, and with any educational degree, anyone can learn to access and radiate his or her charisma. Through Lang's internationally renowned and proven program, readers learn to trust themselves and share with others their unique and positive qualities--and become the people they've always desired to be.
Feedback
"It was a pleasure to hear you speak and meet you at the Women's Leadership Exchange Conference, 2008, in Fort Lauderdale. Your vibrant personality is contagious. Thank you for your time and interest in my questions during the coaching session. You helped me unravel my problem of inspiring leadership within my group. I hope to have another opportunity to glean from your knowledge and skills!"
— Arden Halsey,Send Out Cards, Inc.
Women's Leadership Exchange Conference, Fort Lauderdale, 2008
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